Men are from entertainment.. women are for enterntainment

Men are from entertainment.. women are for enterntainment

Who is responsible....the nebulous insights into a man's actions and a woman's world..IIM CAL becomes a window to the world...

Mail from xxxxx xxxxxx sent to iimcalumni egroup:

Hi all,

It was just yesterday, after many days of reading many mails that the thought struck me as to why dont i see any women participating in this discussion. And if no other women are, then why dont I? Because, I, for one definitely have very strong feelings about the whole issue...

And I think the reason i came up with was : How do i care??....i have lived through that hell hole for two years and i really dont care toremember it...really dont care to change it and really don't think any of this will help....

Thank God for Nidhi...for her writing a mail and expressing her views....which i completely agree with....and which make me feel that the discussion will never be fair and complete as long as is it the judge, jury, defendents and the witnesses only who speak...What about the plaintiff

here..what about the women....so i am going to volunteer my very personal views on this discussion

I am not really sure if we (any of us) see the overall picture of what we are talking about and about what happens with/to women as they go through IIMC. Because these things happen in a fragmented way..spread over two years....to different people (in varying intensities)and most of all the overall acceptance and the lack of outcry is so huge...that they don't get noticed for what they really are...gross injustice to a certain set of people...

Within the boundary walls of Joka, we have over the years created a place where we feel that normal rules of society don't apply. Where civilisation as we know it in the outside world ceases to exist in some ways...Morals don't matter and basic respect for human beings is not really necessary...

I am going to just present a picture of some of the things i saw happen and also went through some of them myself and i just want us all to take a minute and think if any of us would have done of these things outside Joka at all...and that if this was done outside the confines of Joka, what would have been the repercussions of that....legal, moral and social....

A vey small fraction of the incidents that i saw at Joka in my two years there:

Putting up of a website which is the first thing which flashes on the screens at the computer centre every time a person logs in and where a person can go and vote for all the women in his batch and the junior/senior batch along various dimensions...and no prizes for guessing that the dimensions were not best smile, most intelligent person...etc..etc...

Putting up a well-crafted and witty poem in all hostels on two women colleagues who are good friends with each other alleging lesbian relationships..just for kicks and to show mastery at poetry

Not so 'Disguised' references to women in con quizzes and oaths linking them to varied men on campus in extremely lewd situations and administering these quizzes/oaths to the entire campus...do any of you men know how much effort it takes to walk out of your room the next morning with your head high...when the whole campus has read something like that about you the night before???

Commenting loudly (to ensure that the subject of the comment clearly hears it) on specific parts of the anatomy of a woman player while a match is going on at XL-IIMC meet??? Do you think anyone would care to still play a sport in a situation like that???

A concerted effort by a guy and 30 people around him to continually harass a woman until she finally decides to 'go around' with this person..doesn't this person have a life of her own????

Photographs of women being ripped off/stolen from the common NBSM display...

Making sure that any woman who is wearing white during the dunking week is actually dunked...

Each wing having a running rating of their women colleagues....reducing your own colleagues to the level of sex objects???

Throwing of coins at the women while they are performing on the talent night..by men who are drunk and have gajras in their hands...

Surfing through porn sites in the computer centre when there is a woman sitting on the comp next to you or right behind you...

Trading and bidding for women during world wars,tutes....

etc.etc.etc....i hope you all get the picture....These and all other events like these, i am sure, are punishable under sexual abuse, sexual harassment and a number of other laws...then why do these things go unnoticed (or rather are appreciated) in Joka...

Now this is not done to some unknown woman on the street...but to the person who sits next to you in the class, who is in your own project group, who comes from a respectable family, who is supposed to be one of the more intelligent people in this country....what gave anyone the right to subject her to something like that...

And why is all this done? Does she enjoy it? I am sure not...I shudder even at the memory of such things...Are other people so devoid of entertainment in their lives that this is what they need to resort to???? What happened to TV, sports, comic books, literature, music, triple X rated movies, porn magazines.....aren't those enuff for everyone's private entertainment that people need to resort to stuff like this at whatever level and at whatever scale....Why does even a single one of these events need to take place when there are a whole host of other ways for everyone to have a good time..e.g. a well organised con....or a fun dance party....or whatever...

IIMC has its benefits...The boy-girl ratio can make every woman feel like the prom queen, Miss World or whatever else at some point of time or the other...

and then there are the pits...where you feel like society has stooped to i dont know what century where women are just sex objects and nothing else....and i personally would rather trade both of them off then have both of them exist... however, if we all think about it...it is really possible to have one and not the other....

So why does all/any of this need to happen..in the name of tradition???why cant our traditions be clean and fun for all...why can't our traditions ensure that not a single person gets hurt intentionally...why cant our traditions be within the confines of the norms of normal society....Who gave us the right to create an artificial society and at times a disgusting society within the walls of Joka....when we all are actually a part of the larger world outside...

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